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A guy’s thoughts on the ‘Thigh Gap’

Apparently you ladies want to have your own thigh gap?

Apparently it represents health, happiness and even sexiness?

Apparently if you’re a chick without a thigh gap, you’re less of a woman, right?

That’s the thigh gap fad talking. Not me. 

Enjoying the company of some girls the other day, they referred to a magazine image that supposedly portrayed “feminine perfection” – or words to that effect.

I’m not sure of the exact image, but it looked a little something like this……………

Okay okay, maybe I’m stretching it a touch…………….

Yes. That’s more like it! There’s your classic, stereotypical thigh gap magazine type image.

“Wouldn’t it be great to have legs like that?!”

“Oh HELL yeah! Guys love it!”

Hang on a minute!

Being a relatively young and heterosexual guy, if there was ever a time my input could or would be relevant, it was now. And if that didn’t qualify me to speak, perhaps the fact that I’m very much a ‘leg guy’ did. We all have favourite body parts of the opposite sex we particularly like – it’s the same for the girls too.

For me, it’s the legs. That’s not to say I want my woman to have a leaner chest than me, just I notice a great pair of legs much more on a lady, or first. This isn’t ‘pervy’ – just honest.

“I don’t love it. I think skinny upper thighs and narrow hips are actually quite un-feminite!”

Shocked and bemused, the girls expected me to crack a smile and confess to making a badly timed joke or something.

No smiles on my face! Say what you mean and mean what you say.

“I’m serious! I like a girls legs to gradually widen from the knee to hip. I think that’s a great feminine look.”

Here’s a rough example:

You can always rely on pinterest for picture gold!

All those demo girls have nice, continuously widening thighs. And it’s a good look, yes I’ve said it. After reassuring the girls I was chatting with that I wasn’t joking, I could see almost an instant release of pressure. As if they felt somewhat closer to self acceptance and it felt great to make them feel that way.

Again this is MY opinion, and a common opinion amongst my male friends. I’m not posting this to make those with skinny upper legs or thigh gaps, whatever, feel as though they shouldn’t be how they are. Nor am I saying that as long as your thighs widen from the knee, I’m going to find you irresistible.

It’s not an excuse to be out of shape and have copious amounts of bodyfat hanging off of you. I’m just saying I think you should embrace your feminine qualities; one of which is having shapely legs and wider hips……………

Basic anatomy folks.

Please don’t base your desires on what the media portrays and what magazines ‘advise’. Be healthy, accept yourself and realise at the very least, here’s a guy who will happily accept you without some bullshit thigh gap.

And there are plenty more where I came from.

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88 thoughts on “A guy’s thoughts on the ‘Thigh Gap’ Leave a comment

    • I must say it was relatively new to me too until recently. I keep hearing girls I know mention it and I’m tired of people basing their ideals on irrelevant opinions. Surely the most relevant opinion is that of a normal male as opposed to the media? Hence why I felt compelled to speak, haha.

      Thanks so much for your input and feedback! 🙂

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  1. Yes thank you! It’s such an unhealthy aspiration, not even possible for most girls. What’s weird is that it used to be considered unattractive and the girls who naturally had it hated it. Now the fashion industry is pushing it. I wish people would just focus on their personal health instead of trying to change the way their body is structured.

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    • Hey!

      Yeah it’s really weird how it’s flipped around now. The silliest thing of all is girls think it’s a natural ‘guy magnet’ – when in reality, I don’t know of ANY guys who actually like it or desire it! If anything, for me, it’s quite a turn off.

      Thanks a bunch for commenting, nice to see girls accepting themselves. So much so called image standards nowadays, for both genders too!

      James 🙂

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  2. I completely agree with the previous commenters, it’s nice to actually hear it from a guy! I think we girls are always wondering – we see all these images all over the media, but also we should be feminine at the same time and it feels difficult to achieve at the same time. For me, I’ve always had stronger legs so I learned to accept that thigh gap is not for me, but so many of my friends are still striving for that image! Wish are male friends were more like you, strengthening a healthy body image!

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    • Absolutely! Thanks a bunch or your feedback 🙂 I have my fair share of personal ‘insecurities’ which most may say are all in my head. But it can be hard unless you hear it from a relevant source right? Hence the post. Oh and make sure you keep those legs of yours strong and thigh gap-less, there’s few things in life that look better than a lady with strong legs and no thigh gap 🙂

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    • Hey 🙂

      Pleased to be of service! That sounds great, I’d be totally down with that. Shoot me an e-mail sometime (wolf_sta@hotmail.co.uk). Likewise too, it’d be great to feature someone else on my site too! I think I have the perfect potential topic for you to ‘tackle’ too 🙂

      Thanks for commenting, pleased you like the post. It’s popular because it needed saying, right?

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  3. Nice to see so many opinions. Show me a woman willing to train hard, eat right, sleep right, hydrate, stress reduce and I’ll show you an attractive woman ready to enjoy life. Great post.

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  4. That’s a great post! Some girls may have this naturally but most of us dont and wont ever be able to have it (and I actually don’t want it, working on my body is fine but I prefer to work with muscles – ok, and tight laced corset, not extreme though…). I think one should enjoy what is given by nature, no matter of body shape, work on a healthy, stonger body and you will look great!

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  5. It’s good of you to speak up like that, it helps undo at least some of the damage marketing can do. Unfortunately, that marketing to women hits a lot of men just as hard.

    Men looking for status symbols to bolster their ego shop for trophy women and the current trophy is whatever has been deemed beautiful by current media. It often has nothing to do with what turns on that actual man, and that’s sad. You should never waste your energy on anything that doesn’t rock your world just because others will clap for you.

    There are women who love a guy with a belly, men who love women with thick, squeezable thighs, women who like a shy hipster, men who get hard over domineering southern belles. It’s all good; find your match and love ’em until you both fall asleep from exhaustion. Life is good when you choose wisely.

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  6. I never understand the fashion industry,and mainly their hold on so many people. I am relatively smaller in size but have never seen a gap on my thighs.
    I agree with the others. The male perspective does help. Onto the next fashion fad!

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  7. This is a brilliant piece! Thank you. I”m now in my 50’s and on looking back at pictures of myself in my early 20’s I now wonder what I stressed about. It’s really scary that in the 2nd millennium, women are still subject to so many social pressures. I’m not a rabid feminist by any means, I just think that we (women) are good enough, sometimes better than men (read “different”), but the fashion industry and the media really don’t do much to help. As I said, great post and more men need to say it like it is!!

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  8. Hmm…I naturally have a thigh gap because of the way my body is built but I didn’t know this was something girls physically strive towards. It’s just thighs girls! Big or small, just be glad you have them. 🙂

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  9. Thank you!! I wish more of us women would realize in order to be healthy does not mean we have to aspire to an unattainable ideal!! It’s funny how the media likes to make us think they know what we want 🙂

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  10. Great post, I appreciate your honesty! Eat healthy, exercise, and take care of yourself, but never berate your body for not looking how the media says it should. It is so refreshing to hear a guy’s point of view on these issues. Thanks for sharing!

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  11. I like it! We women, some of us anyways and/or at some point in our lives have made it a bad habit to strive for this thigh gap look. I’m guilty as charged and sometimes for a few days fall back to this way of thinking but I like your point of view. Well said and a good reminder!
    ~ Candice-Marie

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  12. Gosh. I wasn’t aware of the ‘thigh gap’ and so feel I’m so last year. I do have a thigh gap but I’d not realised it was fashionable.

    I think it is important to get this into some sort of context. Some of those girls have little definition on their legs and I love definition.

    Let’s not forget genetics. They play a HUGE part in how we look and this is despite endless hours in the gym.

    Sure, the physical stuff is important to a point but it isn’t the be all and end all. If you met someone you really liked, clicked with, found funny, intelligent, witty and engaging…..would you say it was a no brainer because her the shape of her legs didn’t fulfil your desires? I’d hope not. Those legs won’t keep you amused on those long winter nights and they won’t engage you over a dinner table. They are a bonus if all of those other important criteria are present but they should never be a deal breaker.

    I’d love for my legs to be bigger but I’m always going to struggle somewhat. I work hard and as long as I’m running, I’m going to pay the price for that and have more defined and slimmer thighs. I work with what I have and I like what I have…they fit well with the rest of my body. They serve me well and they get me from A to B and then some. They feel good, they’re pretty resilient and they are the only ones that I have.

    However, my thigh gap is more of a small area at the top of my legs and I love every millimetre of it and hell, I may even be able to hold a weapon there when the Zombies attack and I run out of pockets. Just saying.

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  13. “I don’t love it. I think skinny upper thighs and narrow hips are actually quite un-feminite!” Not to nitpick, but I’m pretty sure it’s actually wide hips that contribute to thigh gap, because they’re mostly wider due to the pelvic bone being broader, which in turn causes the upper thigh bones to be further apart. So a feminine bone structure contributes to a thigh gap, but on the other hand, feminine fat-deposit patterns counter-act it.

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  14. Thank you! Great post. I just want to be as fit and healthy as I can. Don’t much care for media hype over what the “perfect” body is – probably written by a woman who has no clue what men really want

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